The issue of Divorce and its effect on my children, tips are welcome

by Imrana
(Lahore, Punjab, Pakistan)

I have a very strange story to tell. I belong from an Islamic society.

My husband uttered divorce 6 times on a very pity issue. He got jealous of my conversations with the girl working in our house so he uttered divorce.

I left his home and came to my parents' home with my children. He took my son and then I had to get him through the court. Finally, I got him back and my world seemed complete now.

Unfortunately things were not in my favour since the beginning. My entire family, my parents and my siblings, gave me tough time.

One of my university friend proposed me. I told my so called husband that a friend of mine has proposed me. After staying in my mother's home for 4 months, my children's father came and took us back home.

When I was there with him, his sister was there with her family. She gave me tough time and put blames on me of theft. She even hit me and my husband didn't help me in any case.

He simply bought my ticket and send me back to my mother's place in the other city. He took away my first two children and send me with the youngest.

After that the same friend of mine helped me out and supported me when I came back to the same city where my husband was. He got engaged to me. My mother didn't like this boy and came to collect me. Then I came back to my mother's house again with my youngest daughter. My children's father put blames on my character that I was involved with my friend. He threatened me that he will not give me my children.

Thus,after 3 months I fought a case for my remaining children and got their legal custody. Now, I am here with them. I work and study as well. I manage all things together. But I find it difficult to cope with the mood swings of my first two children.

They are completely different individuals now. They are too sensitive and aggressive. My eldest is moody but can control her emotions in a better way at times. However, my son was very close to his father. He gets alone when there are guests around. I tell him to talk to his father but he avoids. He simply says that he wants me to be with his father.

I am really worried about him. Their father can never be in friendly terms with me. How can I help him? Which way should I take?

Tips please.