If the parents decide to sharing custody and both ex-partners aim for consistency, geniality, and teamwork, the details of child-rearing decisions tend to become much easier. Parenting and sharing custody is full of decisions you need to make. Parenting as a team is a necessity for your children's today's well being and for their happy future.
After your divorce, you have to build a new relationship with your ex. This relationship is not about what is going on in your new personal and private lives, but only about your children. This way it serves a clear purpose on which both of you can focus. Be respectful towards each other. Do not fight, and especially not in front of the children. Accept the bad habits of the other parent.
It's healthy for children to be exposed to different perspectives and to learn to be flexible. They also need to know they're living under the same basic set of expectations at each home. Aiming for consistency between your home and your ex-partner's avoids confusion for your children.
On making major decisions both of the parents need to be open, honest, and straightforward. This is crucial to both the relationship between the ex-partners and to your children's well being.
In sharing custody, you and your ex-partner will disagree about certain issues. The following topics will help you getting through difficult patches:
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