When requesting father custody, fathers will not be discriminated any more by the courts. In the early days of divorce, the general belief was that it was better for the children to stay with their mother. Today this insight is very different. In general, fathers are as fit as mothers to take care of their children.
For fathers to get custody, it is important to have a look at the Fathers Rights. But to get father custody, there is more to know. You have to know:
Those subjects are explained in this article.
First of all, ask yourself if you are really up to the custody responsibility. If you have multiple children or a very busy job with long and irregular working hours, you must be honest to yourself. Are you really up to the job of custodian parent? What will it bring your children? Or do you make some personal offers to change your situation in favor of the father custody and your children?
Do you go for single custody or for joint custody? Single custody is harder to get. Unless the ground of your divorce is violence, judges favor joint custody above single custody. Ask yourself: what is the best situation for the children?
If your wife thinks different about how to raise your children, it does not have to be a bad thing. You can do both your ways in a shared custody situation. Your children will experience 2 different ways of living and 2 different points of view. That is a good thing, because they will learn about 2 different ways of living.
It is wise to hire a family lawyer to support you during the process. This will increase your chances.
Find the court that is closest to where your children live (the court that has jurisdiction). Aks the court about the process for starting an application. In some courts you can fill in and file the required documents yourself. In others you have to involve a lawyer. You have to fill in a so called "Petition for Custody and Support of Minor Children".
The criteria used by the judge to assign father custody
How to maximize your chances
Mediation is an alternative for the court to get father custody. Of course, mediation can be used only if you want to obtain joint custody. For single custody it does not work.
Return to the Child Custody page.