When filing for a divorce with children, the child custody plan or parenting plan is the most important part. Ideally, the custody plan is created by both parents in mutual agreement.
In 70% of the divorces with children, the mother gets the child custody.
A solid custody plan takes the stress out of the relationship between the parents and the children. In the USA a custody plan or parenting plan must be approved by the court and is legally binding.�
Make sure that your children understand the child custody plan and that they are happy with it. Explain it to them. Explain why you do it. Explain why it is important for them and for you.
The parenting plan can be changed over time. The situation changes, the children grow up, you or your ex partner moves to a different location or you or your partner change jobs.
It is important that you parents comply with the parenting plan. Do not accept from yourself nor from your ex partner that you neglect one or more items of the child custody plan.
Once you start to accept small deviations, it becomes more and more difficult to correct your partners misbehavior. Act immediately. Make it very clear to your ex partner that you do not accept any non compliance with the child custody plan.
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