Why do so many couples get divorced
by Maria Scott
(California, South Pasadena, USA)
Why so many couple are getting divorced? This is difficult to answer. There are many reasons, known and unknown.
Divorce rates peaked between 1977 and 1983. It seemded that almost every married couple was considering a divorce.
According to a survey, many recent couples feel different about the marriage than earlier generations did. The meaning of marriage and the promises and the obligations have changed. In the past the "I do" meant that the marriage was forever.
The last 35 years things have changed. Today, many couples do not keep their promises. Apparently the concept of marriage has changed. Nowadays, the mind set of people that get married is that if they do not like their married life, they step out of it. Simply as that.
The changed divorce laws allow married people to walk away from it much more easily. Before, the divorce process was cumbersome, time consuming and expensive. Today, filing for divorce means doing the paper work, file it and after a month or so the marriage has been ended by the court.
A person wanting a divorce simply download the divorce documents from the internet, fills them in and files them at the court. In the past divorce laws were far more demanding and getting divorced was much harder to do.
New divorce types and more relaxed divorce laws make make divorce a piece of cake. "No fault" divorce means that you do not have to motivate why you want to divorce. You don't have to prove anything about your partners misbehaviour or adultery.
Divorce has become accepted in todays society. Families do not feel the social disapproval of a divorce. They new society and system will support them when they need.
People in love get carried away. This results in marriage. When 2 persons fall in love, the world looks perfect. At that time, they don't care about not knowing the other person good enough to start a long lasting relationship. They get get married without a lot of thought. Soon after they may realise that the person they married with has his weaknesses and odd behaviour and that that person is different from what was expected.
The disappointment can be the beginning of the end of the "good" relationship and of the marriage.
During the last decennia, the values regarding relationships and marriage have changed. A marriage does not have to be forever any more, like in the old days.
Now, many marriages end because of adultery.
Another reason for marrying is money. People get married to be able to lead a rich life.
If the marriage is good, it will continue. But if it does not work, just divorce and take half of the money of your rich partner.
There are many cases of married couples that divorce just after one or two months. This week it came in the news that Kris Humphries and Kim Kardashian divorced after just 72 days.