Divorce for single dads is never easy and there is no one correct way to handle a divorce. Everybody is different.
What is important as you go through your divorce is that you do what works for you. Realize that you as single father are not alone and keep your children's needs at the forefront of every decision you make.
While divorce is never a happy ending to a marriage, it is an ending to one chapter of your life and the beginning of a new one.
As single father, it is important that you remain in your children's lives while you are going through a divorce. Do not use your children as pawns to hurt your wife. This will harm your children more than it will satisfy your need for revenge. Assure your children that you love them by taking an active role in their life.
While you must make sure your children's needs are met, it is also important to make sure your own needs are met. Going through a divorce can put a tremendous amount of stress on you as you try to work out the details of your divorce, including custody of children.
It is usually a good idea to hire an attorney to help you through this time, especially when your role in your children's life is at stake. An attorney should give you the peace of mind that you so desperately need, as they may be someone who can help protect your interests.
As for single dads, it is important to know that you are not alone. While the responsibilities of child rearing and care may rest heavily upon your shoulders, there are many resources available to help lighten the load.
One thing that can help lighten the load is a support group. Becoming involved in a support group is essential as a single father since you do not have a support partner at home. Support groups allow you to bounce ideas off other single dads and encourage one another through the difficulties you face as a single parent.
If a group is not for you, consider talking to a pastor or religious leader or confiding in a friend that you trust. Going through a divorce can turn your world upside down. Find someone who can help you keep things right side up.
As the divorce process proceeds, make sure that you, as single dads, are taking care of yourself.
This is as important for you as it is for your children. Continue working and doing your normal activities.
Give yourself time to grieve the dissolution of your marriage, but do not allow that to affect your health and well-being. Be sure to get plenty of rest and eat healthy meals through this difficult time.
Finally, you may want to start hanging out with friends that are upbeat and help take your mind off your current situation. A good laugh with a good friend can go a long way.
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