Joint custody communication

Communication is always important. Joint custody communication refers to your ex-partner, your children, your parents, your friends, people at your children's school, your brothers and sisters, your neighbours and many more. The most important are the children and your ex.

Communication with your ex

The relationship between you and your ex can be relatively easy or extremely difficult. I some occasions there is still love towards the other or towards each other. In other occasions, something is really broken, trust has disappeared and you and your ex are extremely emotional. Divorce however, is traumatic for most children. Focus on them instead of on your broken relationship.

If the latter is the case, parallel parenting is an option. In parallel parenting, both exes have their own rules for educating the children and the parents have as little contact as possible.

Communication with your children

On the long run, being open and honest to your children works out the best. Do not blame your ex-partner, at least not when the children can hear you. Do not cheat and keep your promises. Also be respectful to the house rules introduced by your ex partner. Also if you disagree. Depending on the age of your children, you can explain your concerns.

Before the divorce, your children probably tried to play you against your partner in some situations. During or after the divorce, they might try to use this trick a little more often. If possible, try to anticipate or avoid these situations through frequent joint custody communication with your ex.

Valuable reading is the excellent guidebook: How do I tell the kids about the divorce?.

Communication with the friends of your children

Communication with your parents

Your parents - your children's grant parents - play an important role in the lives of your children. Keep them well informed about what is going on, about the problems, anger and frustrations your children deal with because of the divorce. They can be a big support for your children and for you.

Communication with the parents of your ex

Communication with your friends

Communication with your children's school

Inform the school as soon as possible, so they can pay some extra attention to your children during these difficult times.

Communication with your brothers and sisters

Communication with your friends

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