Child Divorce story of Chelsie Lyle

by Chelsie Lyle

Watching my Dad leave that day was painful because I thought what happened was all my fault. My parents got divorced when I was six.

I always thought what did I do wrong. My brother and sister always told me it was my fault and I'm the kind of person that wants to fix everything.

From the age of six to ten I had always thought that maybe I could have been better, or maybe help my mom out so she wasn't so stressed. Even go back and try to fix everything I could because for years I thought that maybe I could have fixed it.

One day I began to cry and my mom asked me what was wrong. I looked at her and told her that I thought everything that happened was my fault. My mom scooped me up and just held me saying over and over: "Chelsie you did nothing wrong. What happened between me and your dad was our fight. It had nothing to do with you".

Now, nine years later I still miss life as it used to be, but now I see that I couldn't help what happened and now I live my life for me and I'm loving every second of it.

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Apr 20, 2012
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by: Chelsie Lyle

My Brother and sister would say how I acted made it harder on my parents. I made them divorce.

Now my brother and sister stopped blaming me for the divorce and they really felt bad for what they put me through. Now me and my siblings are getting along seeing as the oldest is now 21 and the other 17 we see that what we have is each other and we shouldn't be blaming each other.

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Why did you think the divorce was your fault?
by: Emmily Napier

Dear Chelsie Lyle,
Thank you for sharing your story. The years after the divorce must have been a difficult period for you. If I understand you well, you are feeling better now?

I read in many places that children of divorce (aged around 6) often think that the divorce of their parents is their fault. They think that they did something wrong.

Of course, children cannot cause a divorce of their parents. How could they?

I do not understand why many children think so. Do you remember why you thought it was your fault?

Why did your brother and sister think it was your fault? Do they still think it is your fault?

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